How others evaluate some one..

Being nice, respectful, caring , showing care, understanding. Without forcing the young ones against their wish . well.mannered n sweet talking , respectful , young people are always looked up.respectfully by others. Outsiders and Teachers always hv good n higher Opinion about certain people whom they think.posses quality. , but close family member sees only the weakness of their family member. Tjose who gliter, takls sweetly amd with glamour looks veing the qiality human being.The toogood n welbehaved always bullued and nit given Choice to make decissions in life.

Outsiders Opinion always different than a close knit/ kin

Famimy memvers wsoecualy Older Sibking veunf guardians of ykunger Dibkings in tbe absence od a fsther. act double or Over protective Over theur younger dibkings abd st the same ti.e not being sensitive, wuthnthebyounger ones needs. the basic needs are fulfilled but tje younger ones mwnral.,emotional deeds are not borhered. The older siblings find wsts to Ocvuoy the younger ones with hiuse Chires, learning, cleaning, and taking care of theur young neices abd nephews. The yiung ones foid and dressing bei g counred and takwn into.consuderstion. The otber tjings are nit given.priority. Thw older ones akwYs underestimate rhe young ones ability ,Talents and skills. Very Seldom, older siblings study theur younger ones. AlwYs older ones being rhe decisdion majers in.everything in the life of their younger ones, future , ambition, interedt, education. example : My older brother gad higher vission fir me wben I passef in firm 3 exam , he called me n told me, thT hevwill sr d me to UK or Indua fur further studies after form 5. vyt qjen he had his life partner, he has furgitten about his promise but want to make me a clerk either in a bank or in a press. My visdion was bigger, with out Consulting him, i joined Teaching. I srarted. as a Temporary Teacher. later pursued Hollidawy course n tuened out a train Teacher. Seeing countless of hurdkes n problems in my.life , both of mybsusters planned toget me bck with them. so ill be a life long slave to them. very strictly I voiced to them, even if i endup on street, ill.nrver conebck to them. i wud rsther live a life away from them.life long..

Heart of Gold

This term will best suit my 4th Sisterinlaw who is 2 years younger than me. The reason why I use this term on her, is because. with a two month old Son, She was taking care of me n my baby girl who was born, when her son was 2n half months baby.Fully baby sit by the grandma. After working hours in the evening she will bring her baby son to spend some time with.me n my new born,Baby girl. She Cooked for me the medicinal and hebal meal before going to work. My brothers house house was my home untill Im married to my hubby. Its not easy to take care of anyone when having own baby/ infant. She proved it wrong by being vv commited and hard working by gettimg all the things. very early m orning she gets up cooks for me and for her family and goes to work, after work she heats up the food and get things ready for me to bath my baby and then after completed all the important tasks, she fetch her baby son from her mothers house and brought him home and laid him beside my baby girl.Being a sister inlaw and taking care of her husbnad younger sister is not an easy task, but with love , concern and care she proved it..

The History Repeats

in 1985 a younger sibling who was only 23 at that time was match make by her older siblings to their brorhers close family friends nephew.Though She was not ready emotionally for Commitments. She told her brother n her sister who being the main people about her emotional level n she do not want to get marroed to any one at that time. Though there were other family , relatives those same profession ask for marriage. The sister was as stuborrn as her close brother, All her sister's crying, begging and tears does not seem to work with these two older Siblings. Though she was dissapointed with their decission. She has no choice,Other than getting married to their Choice n to leave het home town. Seeing all her older Siblings are settlled in life, after her engagement, she realized she's no longer needed in the family ,Seeing their not bothered attitude and reaction in the family. She was ready to move out by getting married to the older family members Choice.Life long tbe olser siblings want to Control her. Exactly after 25 years same situatiin Created by the older Brother for his daughter. This time after seeing her daughters profile on FB. her daughters Colligue visitted her n she shared the pictures of her friend visiting her and having meal with him . Both of her parents were vv scared that the girl will fall for him, immediately they found a boy n created a situation for both of them n get them.engaged, registered and married. She waited 1 year , divorced her husband and moved faraway frm a country . 38years ago when the younger sisters Colique visited her, the 2nd older brother did same thing. But this younger sister tolarated n lived though life was missery..

The Drama queen/ Poisonous Female

Going after good,well behaved and welnurtured boys. Threatening to comid suicide if the boy she is after refused to marry them. Introduce her other boy friends to befriend him and ask them to introduce liquer to him. Every step the boy takes Controlled by this poisonous female. All his friends, now in her Controll. Where he goes, with whom he mingles, whom.he meets this drama queen decides. The worst part, she never let him to spend time with his parents. Either in the house, Outside or whetebever, he is, she xontrols him either thru,phone or by being beside him. This woman when the husband is with her, She uses only phone,talking to her friends. Only her parents house she spends most of her time.A very good and wel mannered young man ,now she turned him as an alchoholic. Both mother and daughter great dramatist..They are the ones always Correct and no one else.Even after her brother left and not visiting them, Both mother and daughter hvnt Changed. Still trying all their tricks to manipulate her husbands family members, but her inlaws are awate of the dramas of the daughter inlaw and her mother.

Our Thoughts become our Destiny n life

My childhood days n memories has turned my life into what I live today. As long as I can remember since my primary schooldays. My family environment, My surroundings ,my neighbours their children and the life experiences seemed as the foundation or basic life which I live today. I never dreamed that I will live the life That I never thought or ever dreamed of. But the environment n Nature help to get or to design the life which I yearn to live. Basically im a vv simple and humble human being.Getting only the simplest and basic things needed to live a simple life. I wanted to be away from all the people in my life. God created the situation and. environment I wanted to live as i like. I created my child hood Village style and surroundings as I like. once the town which I cross while travelling in bus at midnight during school organised tour to south n after I started working and joined the information office programme visiting tbe Parlimen house. this littke town we cross at early morning on sevetal times I noticed this border town between two towns. after almost several years. Im married n settled in this rural town. Nothing much exposure for the kids who were born.n.raised here,So educated parents choose to send them abroad for higher studies. Very rare outsiders choose this place as their destination to continue life.. Very rare cases. But in late few years of Govenment staff and employees settled in rural towns ..

The wel behaved and Diciplined Youths

Its Universal truth that , youth or Youngsters who being v humble , polite and hving low profile, book worms and hardly involved in any bad behaviour usually under estimated not given priority by the older Siblings in any matters related to their future of plans for their future , life or their education. Many youngsters and teenagers being used as a full time cqre tajer, nanny , baby sitters and as family, assistants to take care of the family members, fulfilling the family members needs, getting basic neccessitues for the family, cook, take care of the young ones, wash the clothes, gettimg water from tbe well, finding wood for cooking. All sorts of family chores and responsibilities, in the presence of older Siblings. Some youths managed to pass school exams n move to upper class and school taking care of family n.studying by attending school. The Older Siblings hardly thinks or appreciate the hardship of these family members. instead , they keep on finding faults. Once these youths wish to pursue higher education, The older sibling humiliate them by sending these youths with good results n making them to repeat though they can.pursue Preuni in a Government school without paying any fees.The reason is indurectly forcing the youths tobrepeat the exam again so they yiutjs fedup of studying the same again n.will forget about going to school and studying the same syllabus contonuesly.